Some things are just not meant to be shared, especially when you’re getting to know someone. You don’t need to lay out all your cards on the table at once. Do you really think that the person you’re with cares about why you and your ex broke up, and all of the trauma that went with it?
While you may be tempted to share – are you REALLY asking “don’t judge me”? When you reveal your deepest darkest moments you are asking the person you’re getting to know just this. You are seeking approval or acceptance.
The Angel of Acceptance guides you to accept YOURSELF. She gently tells you to “hold that thought” no need to verbalize it. Do not judge yourself, or expect anyone else to judge you, either. You don’t NEED validation, consolation, or anyone’s disapproval or approval for past behaviors. Because you are human, you WILL make choices and take actions that put you in shameful positions. However, know that YOU are the one that is assuming the “shame”. No need to explain it, defend it, or deflect the behavior. The Angel of Acceptance lets you know that you’re human.
IF you are on the brink of revealing something to someone that you’ve held in the category in your mind of “bad behavior” – HOLD THAT THOUGHT! Dating, and getting to know someone should be light and fun. There is no reason to drag it down, or stop things entirely because you are seeking approval. Get it? Accept yourself, warts and all, and know that the Angel of Acceptance instills in you your OWN approval.
Ask yourself today, “Why do I feel the need for approval and validation”?
Make it a great day!