You’re in a relationship, and everything to YOU appears to be going great! You’re happy, you are with the person you love, then you discover someone else is in your relationship, too. Continue reading
There are many types of communicators in the world. First, we have those politicians that give speeches about what each can do. Are they prepared to actually answer any questions, or are they just speaking to get their points across?
Then, there are the professors and teachers of the world that are supposed to communicate lessons to teach. However, they may become so focused on what they are teaching that they, too, become a bit frazzled when questions are asked and not convey their message clearly for understanding.
On a personal level, we work day in and day out with individuals that may just talk on and on, without providing any opportunity for questions, or interruptions. These people are rather annoying, heh? They are the “know it alls” and manage to make everyone believe they are above all, speaking down to those minions that aren’t as knowledgeable.
When you try to hold an intimate conversation with your significant other, sometimes the words get caught in the mind, causing a condition known as “tongue-tied” – this usually results in painful silence as each of you try to understand what the other is saying.
Today’s Angel, The Angel of Communication – or if you want to draw out the big guns, he is The Archangel Gabriel – the great messenger. Gabriel helps you to express your truth openly and honestly, respect and honor your individuality, but MOST IMPORTANT – LISTEN!
Gabriel’s biggest gift to you is to assist you in making valuable contributions to a conversation. Using your own intuition, assimilating between what is “right and truth” in your world, to holding your mouth shut when it won’t make a difference. Are you one of those people that must get the last word in? Are you one of those people that simply must prove you’re RIGHT above all else?
If you answered “yes” to any of these, then you need some serious work with Gabriel. He IS the original messenger of God, and he WILL guide you to stand with your integrity, and thoughts, quietly placed until the time is right for you to unload on someone.
Conversations: EVERY good conversation BEGINS with LISTENING!!!
Ask yourself today: “What can I learn by keeping my mouth silent and my ears open?”
Love and fear cannot reside in
the same space
any more than Peace and Chaos
-Dr. Wayne Dyer
How many of you have read anything by Wayne Dyer? The above is one of my favorite quotes from his work. Oh, how true it is. I thought it would be nice to begin this little narrative by quoting him. Miss You, Wayne! Hope you’re having high tea with the angels!
I am asked all of the time, “When will I get a love life”. This is a fair enough question, however; the OUTCOME of this depends on YOU – not on any prediction I make. Seriously? Yep, seriously. Below I want you to answer these questions:
- Are you doing ANYTHING at all to ensure you get a love life?
- Do you even know WHO/WHAT kind of a person you’re looking for? This would include: values, interests, common core basics of family, etc.
- Are you harboring any resentment from previous relationships? (I call this the “previous relationship hangover”).
- Are you still traumatized by pain from a previous relationship?
What ARE you doing? Are you making a list and checking it twice? Are you on any dating sites that put yourself out there? Are you willing to approach a person in a public arena just to say hello? Fundamentally, what I’m getting to is: how MUCH of your comfort zone are you able to step out of to accommodate your desire for a relationship?
If you aren’t putting in the effort to do anything – how can you expect the Universe to at least MATCH your effort…. if you put in zero per-cent, then you get zero per-cent back. Yes, it’s high math, but I trust you can do it.
Are you AFRAID that if you DO something it will only lead to pain and rejection? Well, I hate to break this to you, but you’re not special. 9 out of 10 dating relationships do break up, and lead to pain and rejection. BUT, you’re DATING, and you need to keep trying for that 1% shot of your “happily ever after….”
If you even DOUBLE the effort you’re putting in (assuming you start at zero) then that increases 50% that the Universe is going to add to the dating pool for you, which gets you closer to that 1% of meeting Mr./Ms. Right! I know – easy, right?
Fear may keep you petrified. Frozen. Stuck……but fear won’t quell your DESIRE for a good partner – it just keeps you from actually FINDING someone. (Let me know how this works for you).
Just re-read Dr. Dyer’s quote. Take a deep breath, and boldly go where you haven’t gone before! Nothing grows in the shade of a comfort zone.
Schedule a reading with me and I’ll walk you through how to Date again! Promise it won’t hurt. Be bold!
Yes, we are responsible for our choices. Sometimes, however; those choices appear to be forced on us in such a subtle way that we are dumbstruck when we step back just a bit to actually see that it isn’t caring and loving – it’s just that we allowed ourselves to be taken advantage of. I don’t know if it’s the love that some of us put out there, or the caring co-dependent nature of the beast that screams “YES, I CAN AND YES I WILL” that puts us in this situation. Ultimately, though, it is critical that YOU and YOU ALONE are the one responsible for the choice you made to put you in the situation.
What, exactly, are the signs of being taken advantage of? Here are my top 5. Feel free to add your own, too, in the comment section below.
1. “You are the first one I thought of…..” that would do what I assume you’ll do because you always do what I (don’t) ask of you, but tell you.
2. “Do me a favor” – is a good line that the person taking advantage of you always uses, then never does YOU a favor or is there when YOU may need that person.
3. “Would you….” is also a good start to telling you what they need from you. Bear in mind, this is not accompanied with a “please”….
4. “I know you won’t mind doing this….” Why? Because it’s become a pattern that you will do what you are (sorta) “asked” to do.
5. “You need to….” is another classic way the person taking advantage of you insinuates that you’re “needing” to do things better and for that person.
Basically, the bottom line is that it is YOUR choice to say “NO, I can’t”, but the person has implied promises to you that you are hoping he/she will keep. Whether it’s a boss that has promised a promotion, or a relationship where he/she has implied that you’re “important”.
In the latter case of a relationship, obviously there is no respect from the person taking advantage of you, it’s all about his/her needs and what he/she wants. It’s very selfish, but you may be so entangled in what YOU desire, that you fail to see the reality.
Wake up, smell the coffee, and stop being a doormat to someone that assumes things from you without even talking to you about those things. “How do you feel about….” is a loving way to open up a dialogue about decisions.
You make your choices, and you take responsibility for them, and that is the truth. No one forces you or guilts you into anything that you aren’t open to in the first place. No fair whining about your situation. You got there, you get out of it.
Sending you angels,
Have you ever found something so intriguing that it totally ignites your soul, and sets it on fire? It could be something as simple as gardening, and nurturing little plants. Perhaps you’ve just had a child, and out of it is born your passion, to help other children? Maybe you pick up a piece of fabric for the first time and discover the limitless possibilities and what you can create from it?
Passion. It’s what drives your soul, helps you to define yourself, and most of all – provides an escape from a daily routine. Sometimes, this passion becomes your life’s’ work. Sometimes it just is something to look forward to. It keeps your mind occupied. When you do something with passion, it’s not “work”, it becomes FUN. And, when you complete your projects, it’s satisfying to your soul. It’s an accomplishment,
When you are passionate about anything, you will feel the desire to pursue it with every fiber of your being. The Angel of Passion guides you to ACT on this desire and directs you to fulfillment.
A life without passion is mechanical. Robotic. Routine. Everyone has a special gift or talent, but sometimes you need to think about what inspires you.
Ask yourself today, “Of all the things in the world, what can I do to contribute a piece of ME; not only to make my world a better place, but make me feel better about myself”?
Make it a great PASSION filled day!